Reacting to the article ” Couple’s happiness: your actions matter, also your words” , a sender ended her email writing: ” (…) even if he is loving and caring I’m not sure that he loves me because he never says so. His actions might be out of kindness or just because we are used to each other and are part of our routines (…) “
Well I heard once: “take care of what you love because you can’t hug a memory.” I think that this is one of the best phrases for us to picture the importance of giving a proper value to what we have and to our significant others, but mainly to act in consequence.
We tend to take things for granted and we forget that having a small detail is as important as actually saying or speaking our feelings out loud.
Yes we adore significant gestures and actions; that’s why we say and actually feel that expresing our love takes more than words; but assuming that our beloved ones are certain of our feelings just because we act in consequence is also one of our biggest mistakes.
We can’t allow trending slogans like “actions speak louder than words” to fool us. Humans are creatures of words. We love hearing even what we already know. Words are for us confirmation and affirmation. Words have a huge impact in our brain and in those who are listening even in a subconscious way. Negative and positive verbal expressions can both awake different biochemical and electrical answers in our brain. What you say or don’t say to others really matter.
So I guess that when the case is a about feelings, we need to balance what we say and what we do, being our acts in correspondence with our words and viceversa. Otherwise you obtain empty phrases or like in the case of this letter I received, actions that pass unnoticed or that become meaningless.